WEDDING STATIONERY ETIQUETTE
Are you planning your wedding with the recurring thought in your mind, "I have no idea how this is done, I've never been married before?" We know how you feel, in fact, we were in that exact place recently. It doesn't matter how many weddings you've been to, you'll never understand the details that go into a wedding until you're planning one yourself. I (Cassie) stood at the cake table on my wedding day, while everyone waited for us to cut the cake, whispering to my new husband, "how is this supposed to go?"
Needless to say, weddings are one big, overly detailed event that sometimes makes a bride want to pull her hair out. These posts are our way of serving you our knowledge so that you don't have to feel like an amateur anymore.
Our desire for this journal entry is to inform you of the details you need to think about when you begin your wedding stationery process.
When to send out Save The Dates
6-8 months. Make sure to only send out save the dates to people who will be invited, without a doubt.
When to send out invitations
6-8 weeks. This gives out of town guests plenty of time to make travel arrangements. If it's a destination wedding, give your guests more time by sending them out 3 months ahead of time. We recommend beginning the design process 4-6 weeks prior to the date you'd like to send them out.
How to choose a deadline for RSVPs
2-4 weeks in order to allow enough time to give your head count to the caterer and organize the seating arrangements.
Keep it simple. The invitation should only include the host names, the full names of the couple marrying, and the date, time, and location of the ceremony. Do not print extra information on the back of the invitation.
Spell it Out
You should always spell out words, such as, "street", "apartment", or state names. Numerals under 20 should also always be spelled out.
You don't want to come off as asking for gifts, therefore we don't advise including your registry information on any stationery you send out. We do however encourage you to have close family and friends spread the word, as well as include these details on your wedding website.
You may include your dress code either in the lower corner of the invitation, on a details card, or on your website. Wording options include: Black Tie, Cocktail Attire, Casual Attire, etc. Whether you include dress code information or not, your invitation suite should reflect the formality of the event through the design and presentation.
Make sure to give your guests all of the information they will need to plan for your wedding. We suggest creating a wedding website as the mobile hub for all of these nitty gritty details, and printing the URL on your small detail card. If you choose to print the URL, make sure to include a list of information they will find on your website to encourage them to visit it. This is an easy way to save money on extra suite pieces, and also make it easy on your guests so that they have access to this information wherever they are. However, if you have a lot of elderly guests, you may want to consider printing all of this additional info on a larger detail card, or multiple cards since they are probably not as technologically savvy.
It is not required to include a plus one for every single guest you invite. Most guests should know if "and guest" is not after their name, they are not invited to bring a plus one. If you're having an intimate wedding, most guests should understand your reasoning.
It is customary to include a return address on the back flap of the envelope. This address should be whomever's is designated to receive the response cards. This address should be printed on your response cards as well.
You should always include postage on your response cards. If not, you'll risk your guests not sending in their RSVP's due to the inconvenience of having to buy postage.
Thank you notes
Thank you's should be treated with a sense of urgency. Express your true appreciation in a timely manner by sending your gratitude within two weeks of receiving the gift.
We hope this has covered most of your looming questions about the basics of wedding stationery, and as always, feel free to reach out with any additional questions you may have!