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WHEN YOU SHOULD GO WITH SEMI-CUSTOM PAPER GOODS
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If you haven't already heard, we'll be launching our semi-custom shop on September 27th. We decided to create semi-custom suites for brides with certain circumstances who want beautiful paper goods for their special day. We're going to outline three good reasons why semi-custom might be right for you!

WHAT ARE SEMI-CUSTOM SUITES?

Semi-custom suites vary from stationer to stationer, as well as the options that come with them. Our suites are all 5-pieces (invite, rsvp, rsvp envelope, detail card, & outer envelope), with the ability to add embellishments & day-of goods. Each piece is customizable to your names, information, wording style, as well as printing process, ink color, calligraphy style, paper color, and envelope color.

BUDGET

We've said it before, but we were recently brides, and we understand the stress of budgeting for a wedding. The initial concept for a semi-custom line popped into our heads when we realized what other brides were going through, and we wanted to have a solution. We'll be the first to admit that we have expensive taste. But why shouldn't you have your dreamy wedding?

When it comes to budget, semi-custom suites allow you to get the biggest bang for your buck. You still get a beautiful design, but for a lower price than custom work. These suites require you to save on design time, due to the fact that the suite is pre-designed, all that needs to happen is editing the information and colors that you choose. Semi-custom can save you up to $500, which in wedding world, is a whole cake!

Maybe you have a decent budget for wedding stationery, but you really want a lot of paper goods incorporated into your day? This is where that extra ~$500 can get you some menus or place cards.

TIMING

We often get requests from couples that are either running a bit behind on their wedding stationery and don't have time to design something custom, or they have a short engagement and they desire a unique and organic aesthetic.

As a general rule of thumb, we recommend our clients reach out 3-6 months prior to their wedding. Once you've reached the 8 week mark, we recommend that you choose a semi-custom suite, or if you still desire a completely custom design, there's usually a rush fee that goes along with that. This fee varies based on your stationer, but generally hovers around 20% of your total.

SIMPLICITY

Maybe you're just a busy gal and you don't have time to go through the process of designing custom wedding paper goods. We get it, planning is not a walk in the park, and coordinating with another vendor could put your inbox over the edge. Our shop will be simple and easy to go through, and you could be checked out within 15 minutes. On top of that, we handle everything behind the scenes, so all you have to do is click purchase, approve, and wait for the arrival of your beautiful paper goods.


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SOFIA

FLOURISH

Adore

Here's a sneak peek of what you will find in our shop!


This all being said, semi-custom is not for everyone. If you're looking for something personalized to you, your venue, or your wedding theme, we do not recommend that you settle for anything less than custom. The impact that comes with custom paper goods is worth every penny, as well as the memories that your heirloom suite brings back for years to come.

Along with custom design, comes a lifelong friendship from yours truly. We aspire for our custom clients to feel like more than just a client, but like family.

So which is the perfect route for you?

Xo,
C+A

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WEDDING INVITATION WORDING ETIQUETTE
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As we talked about in our previous etiquette post, invitations should be kept simple and to the point. They should only include the host names, bride & groom's names, date, time, and ceremony location. We're sharing our knowledge below about the etiquette behind wedding invitation wording.

Host wording

We recommend always checking with the host before making your final decision on how to word your host line of the invitation. You want to make sure to be gracious to your host/s.

You have the option to list out each of the host's names, (for example: Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Adler), or if there are multiple parties hosting, such as both sets of parents and the bride & groom, it's okay to just say "Together with our families," as long as you have permission from your hosts.

Some examples of wording for your host line:
"request the pleasure of your company"
"would love for you to join them"
"invite you to celebrate with them"
"request the honor of your presence"

Bride & Groom's Names

Traditionally, the bride's name precedes the groom's, due to the tradition that the bride's parents host the event.

If the bride's parents are, in fact hosting and the bride shares their parents' name that is listed in the host line, her last name does not need to be included. However, it is customary to include the groom's last name.

The reasoning behind including full names within your invitation is for the guests who do not know you personally, maybe they're acquaintances to your parents or they know more than one John and Abigail. An exception to this rule is when you're having an intimate wedding where everyone knows the bride and groom personally and does not need that extra reminder of what their full names are.

Date and Time

Formal wedding invitations generally have everything spelled out, including the date, year, time, etc. (for example: "Saturday, the fifteenth of May," "five o'clock," "two thousand and eighteen")

The Location

Unless the name of your ceremony location will confuse your guests, the full address is not necessary. However, you should always include the city and state. A few examples of when you should include full addresses are: if the location is a home, doesn't easily come up on a search engine map, or if there are multiple locations with the same name.


While this information is helpful, we always recommend discussing your wording options with your stationer. Usually they will be able to offer you a couple of wording options that fit your circumstances. However, we wholeheartedly support new ways of wording things to fit your style. As always, we're an open book, so don't hesitate to reach out about your wedding stationery questions!

Xo,
C+A

p.s. For other tips or insight into wedding stationery & planning, click here and be sure to subscribe to our journal to receive updates straight to your inbox!

 

 

WEDDING STATIONERY ETIQUETTE

Are you planning your wedding with the recurring thought in your mind, "I have no idea how this is done, I've never been married before?" We know how you feel, in fact, we were in that exact place recently. It doesn't matter how many weddings you've been to, you'll never understand the details that go into a wedding until you're planning one yourself. I (Cassie) stood at the cake table on my wedding day, while everyone waited for us to cut the cake, whispering to my new husband, "how is this supposed to go?"

Needless to say, weddings are one big, overly detailed event that sometimes makes a bride want to pull her hair out. These posts are our way of serving you our knowledge so that you don't have to feel like an amateur anymore.

Our desire for this journal entry is to inform you of the details you need to think about when you begin your wedding stationery process.


When to send out Save The Dates

6-8 months. Make sure to only send out save the dates to people who will be invited, without a doubt.

When to send out invitations

6-8 weeks. This gives out of town guests plenty of time to make travel arrangements. If it's a destination wedding, give your guests more time by sending them out 3 months ahead of time. We recommend beginning the design process 4-6 weeks prior to the date you'd like to send them out.

How to choose a deadline for RSVPs

2-4 weeks in order to allow enough time to give your head count to the caterer and organize the seating arrangements. 

Invitation Information

Keep it simple. The invitation should only include the host names, the full names of the couple marrying, and the date, time, and location of the ceremony. Do not print extra information on the back of the invitation.

Spell it Out

You should always spell out words, such as, "street", "apartment", or state names. Numerals under 20 should also always be spelled out.

Registry info

You don't want to come off as asking for gifts, therefore we don't advise including your registry information on any stationery you send out. We do however encourage you to have close family and friends spread the word, as well as include these details on your wedding website.

Dress Code

You may include your dress code either in the lower corner of the invitation, on a details card, or on your website. Wording options include: Black Tie, Cocktail Attire, Casual Attire, etc. Whether you include dress code information or not, your invitation suite should reflect the formality of the event through the design and presentation.

Details

Make sure to give your guests all of the information they will need to plan for your wedding. We suggest creating a wedding website as the mobile hub for all of these nitty gritty details, and printing the URL on your small detail card. If you choose to print the URL, make sure to include a list of information they will find on your website to encourage them to visit it. This is an easy way to save money on extra suite pieces, and also make it easy on your guests so that they have access to this information wherever they are. However, if you have a lot of elderly guests, you may want to consider printing all of this additional info on a larger detail card, or multiple cards since they are probably not as technologically savvy.

Plus Ones

It is not required to include a plus one for every single guest you invite. Most guests should know if "and guest" is not after their name, they are not invited to bring a plus one. If you're having an intimate wedding, most guests should understand your reasoning.

Return Addresses

It is customary to include a return address on the back flap of the envelope. This address should be whomever's is designated to receive the response cards. This address should be printed on your response cards as well.

RSVP Postage

You should always include postage on your response cards. If not, you'll risk your guests not sending in their RSVP's due to the inconvenience of having to buy postage.

Thank you notes

Thank you's should be treated with a sense of urgency. Express your true appreciation in a timely manner by sending your gratitude within two weeks of receiving the gift.


We hope this has covered most of your looming questions about the basics of wedding stationery, and as always, feel free to reach out with any additional questions you may have!

Xo,
C+A

p.s. For other tips or insight into wedding stationery & planning, click here and be sure to subscribe to our journal to receive updates straight to your inbox!

 

WEDDING WEBSITES

While we're paper lovers ourselves, we've experienced first hand how difficult it is to include every little detail your guests should know within your invitation suite, while still maintaining an elegantly simple balance. We've found that the cure for this dilemma is to create an equally as elegant wedding website via Squarespace to include those not-so-adorable, but ever-so-important details, and avoid any day of calls and texts from your guests and insure pure bridal bliss on your big day. See below for a list of items to be sure to include!

Your Story

Your guests will LOVE getting to know you two as a couple prior to your big day! Give them the nitty-gritty details of how you met, your first date, and how he asked and your guests will arrive feeling even more emotionally connected than before!

Your Ceremony & Reception Venue Details

Addresses can be unnecessary and inconvenient to a bride & groom who likes the light and airy feel for their wedding invitations. Point them to your website for these unattractive details!

Accommodations

Include hotel information, as well as a link to make reservations for your guests convenience!

Attire

Make some clothing suggestions to your guests so that they don't have to wonder what the appropriate attire is for your shindig. It's also a good idea to point out if the ceremony will be on grass, and suggest ladies don't wear stilettos!

Registry

Something you should never include enclosed in your invitation is your registry information. Wedding etiquette says to only give out registry information on a bridal shower invitation, wedding website, or when asked directly from your guests. With the registry industry going more online nowadays, this is an easy way for your guests to shop and to avoid the awkward gift conversation.

Song Requests

This is a fun way to get your guests involved in the wedding planning process, as well as take some pressure off of picking the perfect playlist for the dance floor!

Explore Page

Invite your guests to explore your city by hand picking your favorite spots to grab coffee, drinks, or a bite to eat. Even include a little map, pointing out each of these spots in relation to your host hotel, venue, and local airport.

 

Overall, there are endless options on what you could include on your wedding website and we'd love to help you create this one of a kind paper & web experience for your guests prior to their arrival to your wedding.

Xo,
C+A

p.s. For other tips or insight into wedding stationery & planning, click here and be sure to subscribe to our journal to receive updates straight to your inbox!

CASSIE + ANDREW'S LOVE STORY

HOW WE MET

When we look back at the very beginning of our story together it's hard not to think that one tiny decision could have kept us from each other. In 2011 Andrew was living in his home state of Connecticut ready to take a leap of faith and move to another state to finish out his schooling. Somehow Iowa State University made it on his list and soon later he headed for the hills (or lack thereof). One may ask why an East Coast college guy would move to small town Iowa... I like to believe he thought the girls were prettier here. Little did he know he would meet me a little over seven months later!

I was still finishing out my final semester in high school when my best friend at the time went on a date with this guy named "Andy." Lucky for me they both didn't feel a connection and my friend thought that he was more my type and proceeded to give "Andy" my phone number. I was fresh out of a relationship at the time and I had my mind set on beginning my college career at Iowa State as a single gal. However, "Andy" had other plans. After a month and a half of badgering me to go on a date with him I finally gave in under the agreement that it would be as friends only and that I could call him Andrew. This was just the beginning of Andrew and I's friendship...

"JUST FRIENDS"

We quickly became best friends and texted non-stop. A few weeks later my family and neighbors were celebrating Easter and I felt bad that Andrew had no one to celebrate with since he was from out of state, so I invited him to join in our festivities. It took about thirty seconds for everyone to warm up to him and soon he was just another part of the family. Everyone was teasing us about being more than just friends but I held my ground.

Soon Spring semester was ending and Andrew was headed back to Connecticut. I stopped receiving texts from him and I began to think he finally gave up on trying to date me. It didn't take long for me to miss him and begin to realize maybe my feelings were deeper. Soon after, I received a text from him saying that he was in the hospital and his appendix had burst over two weeks prior, and he was recovering. I’ll be the first one to admit that I felt relieved that I didn’t miss my chance with him!

When he was back in good health and returned to Iowa he made it official and after a whopping six months of "just friends" he asked me to be his girlfriend.

FOUR YEARS LATER

After the most amazing four years with my best friend by my side Andrew planned a date to go to our favorite restaurant for an anniversary dinner. We often go to the same restaurant so this date was nothing out of the ordinary. At the time we were building our first home together just a few miles away so we decided to stop by after dinner to watch the sunset, which was not unusual either. It had rained earlier that day so the "yard" was more like a mud pit. We brought a blanket and a bottle of wine and cozied up on our pile of lumber that was soon to be our back deck. As always we discussed our plans for the house and the memories we hoped to make, and before I knew it Andrew was nervously balancing one knee on my sandal in the mud. Little did I know that would be our first big memory at our new home...

Now we are anxiously awaiting our wedding day to begin our married lives surrounded by friends and family!

 

FUN FACT: Although we grew up 1,200 miles apart, our moms grew up just down the road from each other.

 

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