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WEDDING STATIONERY ETIQUETTE

Are you planning your wedding with the recurring thought in your mind, "I have no idea how this is done, I've never been married before?" We know how you feel, in fact, we were in that exact place recently. It doesn't matter how many weddings you've been to, you'll never understand the details that go into a wedding until you're planning one yourself. I (Cassie) stood at the cake table on my wedding day, while everyone waited for us to cut the cake, whispering to my new husband, "how is this supposed to go?"

Needless to say, weddings are one big, overly detailed event that sometimes makes a bride want to pull her hair out. These posts are our way of serving you our knowledge so that you don't have to feel like an amateur anymore.

Our desire for this journal entry is to inform you of the details you need to think about when you begin your wedding stationery process.


When to send out Save The Dates

6-8 months. Make sure to only send out save the dates to people who will be invited, without a doubt.

When to send out invitations

6-8 weeks. This gives out of town guests plenty of time to make travel arrangements. If it's a destination wedding, give your guests more time by sending them out 3 months ahead of time. We recommend beginning the design process 4-6 weeks prior to the date you'd like to send them out.

How to choose a deadline for RSVPs

2-4 weeks in order to allow enough time to give your head count to the caterer and organize the seating arrangements. 

Invitation Information

Keep it simple. The invitation should only include the host names, the full names of the couple marrying, and the date, time, and location of the ceremony. Do not print extra information on the back of the invitation.

Spell it Out

You should always spell out words, such as, "street", "apartment", or state names. Numerals under 20 should also always be spelled out.

Registry info

You don't want to come off as asking for gifts, therefore we don't advise including your registry information on any stationery you send out. We do however encourage you to have close family and friends spread the word, as well as include these details on your wedding website.

Dress Code

You may include your dress code either in the lower corner of the invitation, on a details card, or on your website. Wording options include: Black Tie, Cocktail Attire, Casual Attire, etc. Whether you include dress code information or not, your invitation suite should reflect the formality of the event through the design and presentation.

Details

Make sure to give your guests all of the information they will need to plan for your wedding. We suggest creating a wedding website as the mobile hub for all of these nitty gritty details, and printing the URL on your small detail card. If you choose to print the URL, make sure to include a list of information they will find on your website to encourage them to visit it. This is an easy way to save money on extra suite pieces, and also make it easy on your guests so that they have access to this information wherever they are. However, if you have a lot of elderly guests, you may want to consider printing all of this additional info on a larger detail card, or multiple cards since they are probably not as technologically savvy.

Plus Ones

It is not required to include a plus one for every single guest you invite. Most guests should know if "and guest" is not after their name, they are not invited to bring a plus one. If you're having an intimate wedding, most guests should understand your reasoning.

Return Addresses

It is customary to include a return address on the back flap of the envelope. This address should be whomever's is designated to receive the response cards. This address should be printed on your response cards as well.

RSVP Postage

You should always include postage on your response cards. If not, you'll risk your guests not sending in their RSVP's due to the inconvenience of having to buy postage.

Thank you notes

Thank you's should be treated with a sense of urgency. Express your true appreciation in a timely manner by sending your gratitude within two weeks of receiving the gift.


We hope this has covered most of your looming questions about the basics of wedding stationery, and as always, feel free to reach out with any additional questions you may have!

Xo,
C+A

p.s. For other tips or insight into wedding stationery & planning, click here and be sure to subscribe to our journal to receive updates straight to your inbox!

 

A COMPREHENSIVE TIMELINE FOR WEDDING STATIONERY

Wedding stationery can be a bit overwhelming when you've never planned a wedding before, but that's what we're here for! We've noticed when a bride comes to us they have very little knowledge about what goes into their stationery suite. This isn't their fault, I mean, how are you expected to know about this stuff? It's our job to know the in's and out's of stationery and to communicate that to you while leaving you feeling like you've entrusted the right gals to take on this aspect of your big day! That being said, we've decided to give a crash course on wedding stationery, starting with the timeline!

Your wedding stationery timeline depends on a few things. First things first, we need to know your wedding date. When it comes to timelines we like to work backwards from the date you will say those special vows!

SAVE THE DATES

We generally recommend sending your save the dates 6-8 months in advance. Let the day and location of your big day decide when to send out your save the dates. Remember to take into account if your wedding requires advanced planning for your guests such as: a weekday, destination, or holiday wedding, or if it's during "peak" wedding season. 

INVITATIONS

Traditionally wedding invitations are mailed out approximately 2 months in advance. As mentioned above, base this off the date and location of your wedding. If you're planning a destination wedding make sure to send out your invitations well in advance to allow your guests to properly plan. When sending out the invitation you also need to consider when you would like your RSVP's back. We generally recommend 1 month in advance in order to give yourself and your vendors proper time to plan.

ADDITIONAL PIECES

If you are needing additional pieces such as programs, menus, place cards, signage, or favor packaging, make sure to place your order 4-8 weeks prior to your wedding day.

THANK YOUS

We recommend sending thank you's for the gifts you receive before your wedding no more than 2 weeks after you receive them. For gifts received on your wedding day, we recommend sending them out no more than 4 weeks after your wedding day. It is best to order your thank you's when you order your invitations so that you have them on hand when you receive those pre-wedding gifts! 

KEEP IN MIND

A few things to keep in mind when deciding on your wedding stationery timeline, other than your date:

  • YOUR STATIONER'S PROCESS: beautiful work that properly reflects you as a couple takes time and it is always best to give your stationer enough time to do their job well!
  • DESIGN STYLE: if you have a simple & clean style your suite may not take as long as if your vision is a bit more detailed and may require custom illustrations, calligraphy, or more intricate elements.
  • PRINTING METHOD: If you're looking to create a more custom look with unique printing processes such as: foil stamp, letterpress, thermography, emboss/deboss, and screenprint, expect a more lengthy production process and give ample time for completion.

Always make sure to order at least 10 extra invitations, envelopes, programs, menus, etc just in case and to be sure you have some to keep as mementos.

We hope you've benefitted from this quick overview of figuring out your stationery timeline & be sure to contact us if you have any further questions! Have a wonderful rest of your day!

Xo,

C+A

p.s. For other tips or insight into wedding stationery & planning, click here and be sure to subscribe to our journal to receive updates straight to your inbox!